reading.
a few plain pieces on the reflexive yes — the one that's out before you've decided anything — and the half-second where it's still a choice. no fixing, no five steps. each one ends at the same free practice.
why do i say yes to everything → it isn't politeness and it isn't weakness. it's fear arriving faster than choice — and there's a half-second before it. how to stop people-pleasing → i haven't stopped. what i have is smaller: the pleasing is hundreds of half-second yeses, caught one at a time. how to say no without feeling guilty → the guilt is old wiring, not a verdict. i stopped waiting for it to leave before the no could happen. how to stop overcommitting → the full calendar is the receipt, not the problem. you don't fix the calendar — you catch the next yes.the longer, messier version — the actual journal, my entries and the ones people send back — lives at the writing →
— heart